For 36-year-old Danny Wakefield, the medical transition he made was incredibly personal. He came out as a transmasculinity, a person who identifies with both masculinity and femininity but who was born female. Wakefield had a double mastectomy and spent nine years going through hormone therapy.
In 2020, Wakefield wrote an article for Newsweek, where he discussed how people often refer to him as a “cisgender gay man.” He noted that this makes him more visible to the world. In April that year, he and his partner got pregnant after he had a one-night stand with a man.
Wakefield’s child, Wilder, was born in 2020. He and his partner had already known for a long time that they wanted to have children, and prior to his transition, Wakefield had already frozen his eggs.
They also thought about how they would feed their child after he or she had a double mastectomy. Wakefield stated that he would not be able to be with Wilder today if he or she had not taken care of themselves and honored their identity prior to becoming pregnant. During the pandemic, Wakefield and his partner stayed home as they were sick, which was very different from how they usually went out. Despite the sickness, they were able to enjoy the experience.
Wakefield, who is also a recovering addict, said that he has become more accepting of his body due to his experience with transitioning. He has gained a following on social media, which is mainly due to the multiple platforms he uses to share his personal story.
In a TikTok video, Wakefield said that he accepts his body even though he doesn’t identify as a woman. He also noted that he can still take advantage of the organs that he was born with. In another video, he can be seen rubbing his belly. According to them, the world thought that he was a girl because he had a uterus, but he was very much not.
Wakefield, who is also non-binary, said that he was able to have children because of his reproductive system, which allows him to carry and deliver a child. He told Yahoo Life that he and his partner were met with a variety of issues when they went to the doctor for their medical procedures.
According to Wakefield, it took around an hour and a half for the doctor to treat him due to them not believing that he was pregnant. Instead, they would quietly ask each other questions about him.
Wakefield claims that it took them over an hour to get him the medical attention he needed due to the staff members not believing he was expecting. They noted that instead of asking him directly, the nurses and doctors would quietly start talking to each other.
According to Dr. Obedin-Maliver, who is an assistant professor at Stanford University’s Department of Gynaecology and OB, stories like Wakefield’s are not uncommon. She noted that society and the medical establishment do not have a good understanding of trans men’s pregnancy.
According to the OBGYN, society has been living in a world where there has been a lack of representation of the various communities that exist. She noted that there has been a lack of a standardized way to describe the difference between a person’s gender and their pregnancy capacity. Despite this, she said that the medical establishment is slowly beginning to understand the needs of trans patients.