Kay Henderson, a 47-year-old woman from Coffs Harbour, has passed away peacefully at 1:23 pm on Friday, surrounded by her loved ones.
Her decision to end her life was not taken lightly, but after years of suffering from the debilitating disease Marfan Syndrome, she felt it was the only way to escape the excruciating pain that had taken over her life.
A Life of Pain and Suffering
Kay’s journey with Marfan Syndrome began when she was just a teenager. The genetic disorder affected the connective tissue in her body, causing problems with her bones, muscles, organs, and tissues.
Despite her brave efforts to manage the condition, Kay’s quality of life had deteriorated significantly over the years.
She had been in constant pain since 2019, and her daily routine had become a struggle.
“My days were just about waking up, taking my meds, feeding the cats, and going back to bed,” Kay said in an interview before her passing. “I had no energy, no motivation. My life was just existing, not living.”
The Decision to End Her Life
Kay’s decision to end her life was not taken lightly. She had been thinking about it for a long time, but it wasn’t until her palliative care doctor brought it up during a visit that she began to explore the option seriously.
With the support of her loved ones and medical team, Kay made the courageous decision to apply for Voluntary Assisted Dying (VAD) under NSW’s new laws.
A Peaceful Goodbye
Kay’s final days were spent surrounded by her loved ones, doing the things she loved. She went for a final ocean swim, listened to her favorite music, and spent quality time with her family and friends.
On the morning of the procedure, Kay’s loved ones gathered around her, sharing food, stories, and tears.
As she took her last breaths, Kay was surrounded by the people she loved, holding hands and listening to her favorite song, “Flame Trees” by Cold Chisel.
A Spiritualist’s Belief in the Afterlife
Kay believed in the afterlife and hoped to be reunited with her loved ones, including her father, when she passed.
She also believed that she would be able to send signs to her loved ones from beyond the grave, whether it was through music, perfume, or spiritual visits.
A Pioneer in the Right to Die
Kay’s decision to end her life under VAD has sparked a conversation about the right to die with dignity. Her bravery and courage have inspired many, and her story will continue to raise awareness about the importance of compassion and choice in end-of-life care.
As her mum, Coralee, said, “Kay is a pioneer, and she’s leaving her mark on this earth. I’m so proud of her.”
If you or someone you know is struggling with a terminal illness or end-of-life care, there are resources available to help. You can reach out to:
Lifeline: 13 11 14 or lifeline.org.au
Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 or beyondblue.org.au
Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800 or kidshelpline.com.au
Headspace: 1800 650 890 or headspace.org.au
13YARN: Speak to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander crisis supporter on 13 92 76 or visit 13yarn.org.au
Remember, you are not alone, and there is help available.